Friday, January 26, 2018

Life Lessons I Learnt at 22

Today is my birthday...which means I can finally sing Blink 182's lyric of nobody likes you when you're 23 and mean it! I don't know why but I've been kinda dreading my birthday this year, does anyone else do this? I just want to be young forever and not have to worry about all those real-life adult decisions. I feel like some years pass you by so quickly and other years, you feel like you're learning a lot of hard lessons. Being 22 was a tough year. One I'll probably always remember and not for the best reasons but alas, I made it to 23 and here are the 22 life lessons I learnt during the past year: 

001. No matter what is it, never ignore those initial red flags. If they're red at the start, they're going to turn black in 0.5 seconds and you deserve so much more than that.

002. Family is everything. Ensure to make time for them, no matter how busy you get.

003. Always remember that people have the ability to change, so don't hold things against them so harshly. 

004. And even though people can change, it doesn't mean they'll be willing don't waste your time waiting for the impossible. 

005. Tiny, baby steps every day are still progress. Don't be too hard on yourself because you're not moving as fast as you thought you would. 

006. Happiness isn't always a given. From my experience, you don't usually get to be happy all the time. It usually comes in waves. Embrace those fleeting moments of joy when they come and always make the most of them!

007. Sometimes, all you can do is keep moving forward

008. The ones closest to you are sometimes the ones you should be most afraid of. Be careful of who you give your heart to.

009. Your parents are just normal human beings that probably tried their best, even if you deserved a lot more. Don't be too hard on them.

010. You get nothing from holding on to a grudge. The only person you hurt is yourself, let it go.

011. Binge watching Gossip Girl ALWAYS helps heal a broken heart. 

012. Always remember your worth. Just because someone doesn’t value and appreciate you, it doesn’t mean someone else won’t; have faith.

013. Everything happens for a reason, even if you can't see what the reason is, to begin with.

014. Never change yourself for anybody else. The right person will love YOU.

015. Life is for living, not being sad. Do whatever you need to, to make yourself happy.

016. The only person you can truly rely on is yourself. 

017. So, remember to put yourself first and live life for you.
018. Being a forgiving person isn't a sign of weakness. Don't let others turn your heart cold.

019. Life always goes on, even when you don't want it to...

020. Always be a little kinder than you need to be, you don't know what battle someone else is fighting.

021. Don't waste your time chasing after someone who doesn't deserve a minute of your time. 

022. And lastly, when all else fails, a cup of tea and basic self-care really does wonders, promise!

I'm so excited and nervous to see what the next year will bring! I'll be spending my day with loved ones, I hope you all have a lovely weekend! 

Sunday, January 21, 2018

Five Good Things This Week

001: Friends. I've been going through a really tough time lately and I've realised that it's oh so easy to focus on all the negatives, but one of the biggest positives of going through hell is that you'll soon realise who your true friends are and I've been so thankful to them, the last few weeks! However, this can also sometimes hurt when the ones who you thought meant the most are nowhere to be seen or even worse and they know what you're going through and still choose not to make contact but instead of questioning your self-worth, see it as a blessing in disguise. Now, this can apply to any of the relationships in your life, not just friendships. Below is one of my favourite quotes at the moment!

Absence and lack of communication makes the heart idealize a person. This subconsciously twists your perception of them into thinking that they are something greater than they really are. They ain’t shit. They don’t care. And neither should you."

002: Missguided. It's always been the age-old question when planning an outfit - jeans and a nice top, but what is a nice top???? Even when I was trying to find an outfit for New Years Eve, I scoured the high-street stores high and LOW for a nice top and I saw lots of tops, none of them nice... But now, Missguided has saved us all and have made their very own 'jeans and a nice top" section on their website. Call me a basic bitch all you like, but this has made my week! *buys all of the nice tops ever*

Poppy Rose. This week YouTube announced their new regulations regarding monetisation eligibility...which basically means death to all smaller channels. It's a move that makes me pretty sad because some of the best content comes from smaller creators, but the one good thing that has come from all this, is everyone sharing their favourite smaller creators and I felt like I should share one of my favourite humans on the internet, Poppy! She is honestly one of those really lovely, genuine, pure people and does great advice and body positive videos. She also has a great series on her channel of her coming out story, which is definitely a must watch. Go over to her channel and give her some love!

Gossip Girl. This is kind of bittersweet. We've known that Netflix UK have been life ruiners since they removed the Office (US) but was that amount of misery enough for them? NO, because they are absolute monsters. Now, they're also removing Gossip Girl on February 15th and I am beyond devastated. Obviously, it means I need to binge watch all six seasons in a month to get my last minute fix. And it's making me feel so happy watching it and feeling that teenage nostalgia. All of the music is such a huge throwback to high school and it's making me miss those days so much! Love, love, love!

005: Bloggers sticking together. After the Elle Darby drama, the blogging community got a little bit weird this week, didn't it? Once again, it has been proved that people still don't 'get' the whole blogging thing at all and they are not comfortable with the fact that some can earn money simply by their online influence. Blogging or vlogging, even though a lot of people's hobby and passion, is still a job. Being patronising and telling online creatives to 'get a real job' is just a little bit silly at this point. The second you get paid for your work, it's a job. Heck, it could even be classed as a job before you get paid for it. And the weirdest part of it all is how angry some people become at the thought of this form of self-employment and I just can't fathom it at all. Why would any grown adult have a problem with what anyone else is doing? Why would a grown man, go out of his way to email a blogger, just to tell her that because she's a blogger, she's a freeloader and mock the number of followers she has? Baffling. But what I loved the most from all of this, was how it made all the community stick together once again! Since then, I've seen so much blogger love, with lots of shout-outs and everyone just supporting one another and that makes me so happy!

Thursday, January 11, 2018

New Year Goals

*TW: mental health chat*

So, 2017 is over and a new year has begun, finally. Lately, all I've seen is people reflecting on the past year and their hopes for 2018 and admittedly, it's left me feeling pretty conflicted. Half of me loved reading them and they gave me that fluffy, warm feeling inside but the other half of me then looked back at my own year and I felt incredibly guilty because I hadn't achieved as much as I should have done as a twenty-two-year-old woman and it hurt a lot.

Friday, January 05, 2018

Top 10: Films of 2017

Thursday, January 04, 2018

Top 10: TV Shows of 2017